Adoption - Give my baby a better life.
Perhaps you can't afford to care for a baby, are not qualified to raise a child, lack the family support
that you would need, or simply don't want a baby. Maybe you are just too young.
Adoption could be the best choice for you and your baby. Your child deserves a chance at a good life.
If you can't provide the loving family that your baby will thrive in, someone else can. This decision
is about the beautiful life that you are bringing into the world, not about you.
Choosing to make an adoption plan won't be easy, but you will always have the comfort
of knowing that you loved your baby enough to do the very best for him or her.
Thousands of couples are waiting to adopt. Some are infertile. Some have already raised children successfully
and want to do it again. Others just want to help kids facing difficult situations. Whatever the reason,
adoptive parents want to offer a loving, caring family to your child.
Adoption has changed a lot in the last 30 years but many misconceptions about it still abound. Perhaps you believe one of these common myths about adoption. You may have thought any one of these at some point in time.
"What if my child wonders later on why I made an adoption plan? Won’t she think I abandoned her?"
If you are not ready to raise a baby, making an adoption plan is the most loving choice you could make. It is the greatest test of your love that you could put the needs of your child above your own. When she is old enough to understand that, she will be glad that you chose not only to give her a chance at life but to give her a better life than she could have had otherwise.
"No one could ever love my child as much as I would. After all, I’m her mother!"
"I could never carry a baby for nine months and then give it up. I’d be too attached."
Your baby needs a stable and loving home, a father and a mother, and an environment that is not filled with violence or drug and alcohol use. Can you give that to her? "Love is an unconditional desire for another’s well being." Show true love to your baby.
"I’ll never know if I did the right thing. I’ll never get to see my baby again or know how she’s doing or anything about her."
If you choose an open adoption, you will be able to visit, call, and write to your child. Though you will not be raising the child, you can choose the people who do. The adoption agency will compile portfolios on the families wishing to adopt. You can interview them and ask any questions that are important to you.
"I don’t want my baby to know what kind of mother she had. I’d be too ashamed. I just want her to be loved by somebody but not know who I am."
If you wish to know how your child is doing but don’t want communication between the two of you, you can choose a semi-open adoption. Just like the open adoption, you can choose the family that your child is placed with. You will receive pictures and updates but you will not have to contact the child unless you choose to do so.
"I don’t want to be tied down with having to visit a child for the rest of my life. I have things I want to do. I just want to give her a good home and let her be happy there."
If you would prefer to put your child in a good home and then go on with your life, you can choose a closed adoption. In this type of adoption you can choose to not have contact with the child or the adoptive parents.
Adoption is a loving choice. Give your child the best chance for a good life that she could have.
Bethany Christian Services Adoption Agency,
Adoption.com, and the
Adoption Network Law Center
are just a few of the groups that will connect you with assistance, housing, and a network of support, in addition to helping you through the